Using NLP to “rewrite” your life!

eraserA Grandfather’s Gift by Ricardo Ocampo.

On his first grandchild’s birthday John Richard presented his son and daughter-law with an elaborate leather-bound journal so they could begin recording the events in their son’s life.

Over the years, the parents and other family members wrote in the journal—noting his trials, tribulations, accomplishments, and limitations in the boy’s life, as well as their own hopes and dreams for his future.

When he became of an age where he could read and write, a ceremony was held. The grandfather presented the book to the child and explained much had been written in it by his ancestors and that he could read their perceptions and beliefs about him.

But even better, he could now begin to write his own journal entries – his experiences, his own hopes and dreams, his fears and his own thoughts.

As the years went by and he turned into a young adult, the grandson began to suspect that what he was writing in the journal was being influenced by the stories that preceded each entry – way back to the first ones, and that these were directing his life.

He felt he had lost control of the direction the journal was taking and was unable to write the stories he wanted. He tried to make adjustments to the older stories but without much success.

He visited his grandfather and asked what he could do about the stories that had created a life of their own. “I was hoping you would notice that and come to me,” said the wise old man. He smiled and pulled from his pocket a small, soft rectangular item. Holding it between his index finger and his thumb for his grandson to see he said: “This is a magic eraser, just waiting for your request. It has the power to change the stories and allow you to write new ones that reflect the direction you want your life to take.”

As the young man grew older, adding new entries and adjusting old ones with the eraser, he noticed he could align the old stories so they supported the direction he wanted. He felt he had more control of his life and could manifest the powerful vision he had for his purpose.

We are all born with our own “book of life.” Early events and the opinions of our forefathers and mothers create the beliefs and behaviors that begin to form our lives. But we need only discover that we each have our own “magic eraser” with which to alter any direction that is not in our best and highest path.

NeuroLinguistic Programming allows us to discover and use our own eraser – to identify and change the beliefs and behaviors that get in our way to having the best life possible.

Experience that magic and come find your own eraser at the 2017 Real World NLP Practitioner Training in Winter Park, Colorado July 24-August 5.

For more information: www.nlpoftherockies.com or call Ricardo Ocampo 303-550-8553

Focus on the Trainers: Mark Andreas

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As a Personal Change Coach and NLP trainer since 2009, I have always been fascinated with community, cooperation, and how conflicts can be resolved in creative ways without the use of force. After graduating from Earlham College with a degree in Peace and Global Studies, I began to collect stories of how people found creative and surprising non-violent solutions to conflicts. The result lead to my first published book, “Sweet Fruit fro the Bitter Tree: 61 stories of creative and compassionate ways out of conflict;”which to my delight was endorsed by Dan Millman and William Ury.

I am also an outdoor enthusiast, and worked two years as a counselor/trip leader for a Wilderness Therapy company, facilitating groups of “troubled” youth on a round-the-clock basis for three-week shifts. My second book, “Waltzing with Wolverines: finding connection and cooperation with troubled teens,” is a collection of stories and principles for working with youth based on the wild experiences that resulted from each new group and expedition!

If I started a new culture it would be based on the principles of NLP and improvisational theater. I have performed in several improv groups in the Boulder/Denver area and found that the principles of good improvisation can serve us for life in general, and much of my own personal growth has come through my improv work.

Currently I train NLP around the country, am instructor of NLP for Red Rocks Community College, and of course I’m delighted to be part of the trainer team at NLP of the Rockies. To find out more about my NLP private practice where I meet with clients from around the world both in-person and over Skype, you can visit my website www.markandreas.com. I look forward to meeting you, whether at the NLP Starter Training, the Practitioner or Master Practitioner Training in Winter Park, or any other training offering through NLP of the Rockies!

Mark Andreas

Mark Andreas

Managing Today’s Chaos

Bad News

 

Record snow and cold, Jihadi John beheadings, deadly hospital viruses, oh my!

Mall shootings, terrorist attack plots, measles and ebola, enough to make me cry!

Just turn on the news and you too can go crazy with anxiety after being bombarded with the bad news of at the day – especially on your 54” HD TV. So, how can you stay informed and keep sane these days?

 

Well, one way that works for me is to refocus my experience. Instead of thinking about me, an American woman, in the U.S., in the year 2015, I think about all the women who have ever lived, all over the world, for the last 10,000 years, and viola! — just like the Sound of Music song My Favorite Things, “then I don’t feel so bad” when I am stuck in gridlocked traffic.

I love reading historical biographies and often think of my grandmother, married at 18 to my 30 year old grandfather. Bearing 12 children at home (4 of whom died in infancy), feeding them, sewing clothes from grain seed sacks, fighting the dust storms and depression of the 1920s on a sugar beet farm in eastern Colorado… well, it puts my puny irritations in perspective.

How we internalize events, not the events themselves, determines how we respond to and feel about the external world. When we are calmer we can respond with more appropriateness. NeuroLinguistic Programming teaches many ways to manage our feelings by restructuring our internal representations of events. Here is a little exercise you can try:

  • Think of something that worries you right now, over which you have little control— for example the recent police shootings of unarmed young men.
  • Notice how you experience it: what are you saying to yourself about it; what are you imagining (visualizing) about it; what sensations do you notice in your body?
    My guess is that you are seeing and hearing it up close, in color as if it were happening now.
  • Next imagine stepping back, putting a frame around that experience, and then sliding it far away to one side. Allow it to become a very small, black and white, still photo, like the ones taken 100 years ago. Notice your experience of it now.
  • Now, think of something you know is happening right now in the world that is a sign of human compassion or innovation; for example when policemen recently spent a day pulling over unsuspecting drivers and handed them $100 bills.
  • Make sure those images are close, in color, vibrant, and the voices close so you can hear the delighted responses of the recipients. How does that feel?
    Imagine doing that automatically every day with the input you receive!

While we don’t want to eliminate awareness of the negative like a Pollyanna, we also don’t need to be the unhappy curmudgeon who is only in touch with the evil in humans either. Having awareness of and control over how we manage our experiences is what we can do with and what we teach in NLP.

I highly recommend the book Rapt by Winifred Gallagher which explores the concept of attention and how it influences our lives. Gallagher quotes poet W.H. Auden:

“Choice of attention is to the inner life what choice of action is to the outer. In both cases, a man is responsible for his choice and must accept the consequences.”

So take charge and focus in a way that allows you to take appropriate action and reduce anxieties. My friend Sally put it well: In all of time, in all of places on the earth, no one ever had it as good as me.

Side note: Journalist George Will’s interesting article also puts one aspect of our situation into perspective.