Humans have a natural tendency to associate feelings and memories with music, colors, images, smells and touches. Years ago, NLP pioneers coined the term “anchors” to describe the strength and importance of these associations. What they also discovered is that we can manage these anchors in order to access desired feelings and states of being (such as confidence, relaxation, or curiosity).
Babs Kirmis, one of our trainers, just experienced the death of her father and wrote about it in terms of anchors:
Very recently I lost my dear father. He had been ready to go for quite some time, and yet I knew I would grieve. When I heard the news – at 3:15 in the morning, I was in a state of being half-awake and half-asleep. Thankfully my mind chose to find happy moments from our 50 years of mutual experiences…and this night turned into quite a journey!
My mind traveled back to my childhood when our dad got ready for work and I stood next to him watching curiously how he did up his necktie. I smiled! Then I “remembered” how his aftershave smelled as he joined us for breakfast. I never stopped loving that smell!
On Sunday mornings when the radio played a particular song he would pull back mom’s chair and ask for a dance – I remember how loving he was!
During the night after the phone call from my sister saying he had died, I was cold and then warm, I felt happy and then sad, I was shaky and very calm and I was aware my mind was using sensory memories to work through 50 years of our times together. These memories and many more anchors will always be with me, and they are delightful.
However, there are moments and anchors in probably everybody’s life which we do not enjoy. Here is the good news: we can learn to choose not to keep them. We can choose what anchors we would like to have instead…
HOW? Well, it’s an easy path, once you know how to do it.
Join us and find out during our NLP of the Rockies – Summer Practitioner Training starting on July 27, 2015.
I look forward to seeing you then, waiting to give you a warm hug, our anchor for mutual learning and appreciation.
As I read Babs’ notes I remembered watching a commercial for Farxiga (a diabetes drug). For background music, they chose to play “The Walk of Life”, a popular song from the 1980’s by Dire Straits—a song most people now dealing with that kind of health issue would recall with great fondness as a reminder of youthfulness and fun, as I do. Fortunately I don’t have health issues that Farxiga would address, but let me tell you, if I did, I’d remember that drug’s name and probably have it in mind.
A very clever use of an auditory anchor!